While Poor Communications May Have Caused Divorce, Good Communication Becomes Important During And After Proceedings


Posted November 3, 2022 by harriettfoxcpa

While divorce is never easy, parents should always prioritize their children's well-being. Learn how divorce can affect the welfare of children.
 
MIAMI – While lack of communication is frequently cited as the cause of a divorce, many are finding that changing this practice is important during and after a divorce.

“This is especially true if children are involved,” said Harriett Fox, CPA (www.harriettfoxcpa.com). “Unwinding a marriage involves finances, emotions, and many other dynamics. Unfortunately, children are frequently the collateral damage following a divorce.

“The way adults respond to divorce proceedings and how they handle things after have huge impacts on the kids.”

Fox is well-versed in family law and divorce proceedings, as a leading forensic accountant with additional specialties in civil and commercial litigation.

She acknowledges that while communications may have been inadequate and toxic during a marriage, it’s important for parents to put differences aside for the welfare of children.

“Parents must insulate children from the confrontations of a divorce and handle differences behind closed doors,” she said. “The kids are innocent bystanders and should remain unaware of differences.”

Fox has seen many instances when kids are put in the middle of a broken marriage. She cites one spouse telling the child, for example, that he couldn’t get new sneakers because the other parent missed a child support payment.

“This type of situation is totally unacceptable,” stressed Fox.

Separate from obvious and degrading verbal methods of communications, Fox points out non-verbal communications as perhaps more demeaning and toxic.

“Body language says a lot,” added Fox. “Crossing one’s arms, rolling the eyes, turning away, and interrupting are among the actions that cause a total breakdown among parents.

“The bottom line is that we’re always communicating whether it’s with words, actions, or body language.”

Fox encourages parents to take the high road and always be aware of how to communicate properly. She points out that during and after a divorce, parents aren’t necessarily trying to resolve past issues. The relationship, Fox points out, is more business-like.

Fox references valuable advice from an article in Psychology Today (Communication Tips for Divorce—Even If Communication Failed in Marriage | Psychology Today) by Ann Gold Buscho, Ph.D., which suggests that the acronym THINK can help you communicate more effectively:

T: Is it TRUE? Be clear about whether you are sharing a fact, a feeling, a question, or an opinion.

H: Is it HELPFUL? Use your words in a constructive way, to repair, or improve the situation.

I: Is it INSPIRING? Does it make your partner want to listen, pay attention, and respond?

N: Is it NECESSARY? What makes what you are saying important? Does it need to be said?

K: Is it KIND? Is your delivery respectful, warm, affectionate, or humorous?

“Divorce is never pleasant, but when parents put the welfare of their children front and center,” she said, “much of the emotional damage to them can be eliminated or at least eased. I encourage clients to remember that every arrow shot to your ex goes through your child’s heart.”

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Last Updated November 3, 2022